I believe it is a misconception that giving is the key to happiness. In that sense, the law of three (maybe you read about it) is not right. I know it is a bold statement, but let me explain using an example.
Through the years I met a lot of people. Professional, private, acquaintances, friends, friends of friends and after a while I found out that the best conversations are the ones where the other one talks. That’s what they say. It made me realize that I myself don’t have to be interesting at all, I just need to ask interesting questions, listen carefully and create a lot of room to let the other answer. It is not about my stories it is about theirs! Not me, them.
It is about feeling and sharing the other ones joy and grief and about receiving in the broadest sense of the word. It’s also about accepting a compliment; I used to find that always a bit awkward. But now I let it in; I embrace it. They mean it; otherwise they wouldn’t say it, do you? Not accepting a compliment is foolish. It is even insulting for the one giving the compliment and even more insulting to yourself.
I learned that the better I am able to receive, the better I became in giving. Receiving energy and giving energy. That’s why I embrace people. I’m always interested in their stories, their emotions and pre-occupations.
In the end, energy is neutral, so the more I receive, the more I can give away.